London’s first sober Speed Dating event
Romance Likely..
Laughter 100% Guaranteed!
A VERY warm welcome to Sober Speed Dating! A unique and refreshing twist on the traditional speed dating experience. Thoughtful questions teamed with fun activities allow you to explore new people - without even thinking about drinking!
Instead of sitting across a tiny table trying to sell yourself in five minutes…imagine laughing, playing, answering clever prompts, and letting your natural personality shine through. Removing alcohol doesn’t make things boring - it actually makes things more alive.
The vibe is relaxed, mischievous, and collaborative.
Conversational prompts mean no awkward small talk.
Unique, fun games mean you get to see how someone plays, responds and flirts - and vice versa.
Whether you’re sober, sober-curious, or just fed up with apps and small talk, this is dating that feels real again.
Meet Your Host
Welcome to the place where sparks fly and hearts flutter!
I’m Alex.
Ex-boozehound turned sobriety enthusiast.
Sober Speed Dating came from the need for more real-life dating events which connect people authentically with zero awkwardness, zero cringe, and zero masking with booze.
I run the events a bit like a joyful 6th form common room: I stand on chairs, shout reminders over the music, squeeze horns to get everyone’s attention, and make sure nobody is left hovering awkwardly on the edge!
You’ll get a welcome drink, clear instructions, real structure (without feeling stiff), and just the right amount of mischief. By the end, people are laughing, flirting, swapping stories, and making new friends — even the shy ones.
As a yoga teacher, events host, and former primary school teacher (as well as former enthusiastic drinker) I understand how to read a room, bring the right energy, and make sure everyone feels safe and included.
Sober since 2024, and now fully committed to making dating fun and human again!
How it Works
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Be welcomed, grab your name tag, and fix yourself an alcohol-free welcome drink. No awkward hovering - I get the room moving quickly.
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Up to 12 mini-dates with fun and silly games and conversational prompts that take the pressure off.
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Busy hands playing games means less pressure, and a shared, collaborative process. You get to see what someone’s actually like. How they respond to interesting questions, play, flirt, and react to you
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We’ll email matches (and “just friends” if you both picked that).
Be the first to Know
Join the priority list to hear about new dates, new cities and events tailored to your age range and preferences.
Absolutely no spam - promise!
FAQs
Is this just for sober people?
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Not at all.
Sober Speed Dating is for sober, sober-curious, and sober-friendly people. Some attendees don’t drink at all, some take a break, some just prefer dating without alcohol in the mix. What matters is that everyone’s happy to meet without booze being the main event.
What age is this for? Am I too old?
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Short answer: no!
Our biggest groups are people in their 30s, 40s and 50s. Events are run with soft age ranges (for example 30–45), but they’re guidelines, not rigid rules. If you’re wondering whether you’ll fit in — you almost certainly will.
Are these event for straight/queer/poly people?
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Yes — and more coming.
Right now we run different straight and queer events, and we’re planning poly-friendly and more niche formats in the future based on demand. When you join the priority list, you can tell us who you’re interested in meeting, which helps shape future events.
Is this like a matchmaking service?
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Nope — and that’s kind of the point.
We don’t promise “the one” or filter humans like products. This is about meeting real people in real life, seeing how they laugh, flirt, react, and show up. Matches (and friends!) are shared the next day — but the experience itself is the win.